I am not a xangalebrity. No, no, it’s okay. I’ve come to grip with this cold, hard, fact of life. I am not bitter about it. I am not angry at the xanga powers that be. I am completely and utterly at peace with it.
While updating my profile the other day, I came to a rather startling realization. I have been on xanga for almost five years now. There were periods of time when I was doing entries almost daily, and others when it seemed more like yearly. I’ve done entries on all types of things from religion to race, Ralph Nader to Old Dirty Bastard, deep and poignant entries to the more usual nonsensical babble. However no matter what I was writing about, or how often I was writing about it, I always seemed to garner a similar amount of interest. 3 or 4 comments a post. That has been about my average. Sometimes I would plateau at about 9 or 10 comments and sometimes dip to 1 (I can always count on Kal to back me up). Before the days of featured content I never really paid this much mind. I had my few regulars I would enjoy seeing feedback from, plus the occasional stragglers that would throw in their two cents worth. I was in blissful ignorance. I mean I knew there were people out there getting more comments, but a) I didn’t know who they were, b) I didn’t know what they were writing, and c) I didn’t care.
Fast forward to the revamped xanga days. The days where The first thing we see when we log in to xanga is the featured content and featured weblogs. We get headlines of some of the stupid repetitive shit they are blogging about (not all, but definitely some) and we see right there at the outset how many comments they receive. Is Jesus Coming Back? by SomeChristianDude- 501 comments. 10 ways to please your man, by LonelyChick – 375 comments. Are You a Xangalebrity? by PatO’Brien – 868 comments. It get’s to be kind of annoying seeing that shit after a while. I started thinking. “Maybe if I wrote more like these people I could get more comments.” The problem was that I do not write like those people. My entries are often longer than most people’s attention span can handle, I talk about bullshit like hating Yanni, I curse way too fucking much, and I never answer “featured questions.” I’ll never be featured weblog material because I do stupid shit like worrying about what stupid thing to put in my “currently listening to” box, instead of worrying about if anything I am writing makes sense. Some of my favorites from my currently listenining:
Randy Jackson’s Music Club, Volume 1
By Randy Jackson
Being Black Ain’t Easy Dawg
Let’s Cut the Crap & Hook up Later on Tonight
I just liked the title of this song
Going to Hell
Like I said before I am not bitter. Really I’m not. Even despite the fact that after years of blogging I have never come close to this status. This is because, just as in real life, xanga celebrity is both fleeting and fickle. I read an interesting post by a new friend (who is a xangalebrity in her own right) where she talks about how she prefers to keep a relatively low profile on xanga. She has had periods where she received an inordinate amount of comments per blog and remarked that it seemed so much more impersonal than when her core group of people were giving her feedback. I couldn’t agree more. I will always take quality over quantity. One of the things I love so much about blogging is making connections with people. It’s seeing people who genuinely care about their writing and who care about yours in return. It’s not a popularity contest or any type of contest at all for that matter. It’s just a place to hear and to be heard and sometimes too much noise can make that difficult.
“Being good does not necessarily make you popular, and being popular does not necessarily make you good.” My aunt used to tell me this when I was younger. If you base your success or self worth on what others think, you are going to be greatly disappointed at times. What’s really important is what you think of yourself. (okay this is starting to sound like a really bad afters chool special). Some of my favorite posts that I have ever written have garnered minimal feedback. Yes it’s frustrating when you write something you love and no one seems to agree, but should that change your pride in your work? Exactly how many comments does it take for something to be considered good anyway?
Just to be sure we are on the same page, I want to emphasize that this is not an attack on xangalebrities. It’s an attack on all of the people who are here for all the wrong reasons, whether they be xangalebrities or not. It’s a plea to all of my fellow users to not let the allure of xangalebrity corrupt your creative minds. After all, if xanga becomes one big popularity contest, what are we left with…
…That’s right people. Myspace. Nobody wants to see that happen.
Edit: I was going to post the debate finals today, but there were some minor delays. I thought this would be fun to revisit with all the drama going on around here today.