It’s not often that I discuss sexual relations on my blog. I am truly sorry if you are feeling a bit squirmish right now. Just think about baseball while you are reading this.
Yesterday, shortly after my girlfriend and I finished doing some “Pilates” together, I started giggling out of the blue. Obviously she wanted to know what was so funny (because she is friggin nosey as hell!), so I tried my best to explain what was going on in my head.
First I was wondering what she tells her friends when they ask about our sex life. (Well in our case its when they used to ask about it. We’ve been together for a while so those questions have long since been adressed.) I don’t know why I became curious about it all of a sudden. I guess maybe since it was a particularly productive “Pilates” session, part of me wanted to know if she goes and tells her girlfriends how many calories she burned. It’s all about the ego folks. I am not ashamed to admit it.
What made me giggle the most though was thinking about how different the “first time with a new lover” conversation is for women than it is for men. Women want to know things about it. Was it good? Is there chemistry? How long? How big? In my girl’s case she did not give very many details because she knew I was keeper. She just said “I handled my business” (or at least that’s what she told me she said). They usually go into more detail when the sex is bad. When it’s good the facial expressions and happy woman glow say it all.
With men it’s a whole different ball game. This is the conversation for men:
“Yo did you hit that yet?”
“Damn straight I did!”
“Hell yeah! That’s what I’m talkin’ bout!”
That is it. No further elaboration needed.
However if men do elaborate, it is only to brag about their performance. Stuff like, “aww man I had her begging for mercy!” Women on the other hand will always talk about how the other party did. (Thanks to KW for that little tidbit.)
So this is the way the sex convo goes. I’ll end with a question my girlfriend asked me.
In your opinion, how important is sex to a relationship?
If you had to put a percentage on it, what would it be?